Skip to main content

Acknowledge v Accept Depression

I will outline attitudinal difference between acknowledging and accepting depression.

Acknowledging means that you are fully aware of your negative mental state and have the choice of finding ways to deal with it.  This also means that you are not in denial.  Those who have not acknowledged their state of mind and emotions caused by depression do not have a choice but suffer.

Acknowledging also means that you now reached the point where you can embark on the depression road to make life better.  You can seek more information about your particular version of depression, find the right medication, and engage with a therapist.

Acknowledging also means that you can start self-observation, self-examination, and self-awareness practices.  There are a lot of resources out there.  My advice would to be read some and identify a few sources that really resonates with you (like it is your style) so that you can put reading into practice.

The most important thing is to get on the road and do something about depression.

Now the accepting!

While it takes a level of acceptance to deal with depression, I need to warn about too much of it.  Below are some of the common effects I've seen which are detrimental to managing or eradicating depression. 

Helplessness
When someone accepts their depression as an unchangeable condition, the constant reminder of this status can turn into a perpetuating and self-fulfilling phenomena to get even deeper into depression.  The helpless state then causes a lack of inclination to reach out and practice self-care.

Making Depression an Excuse
Too much acceptance also can cause people to rationalize their lack of productivity, mood, motivation, and so forth.  The danger here is that people will stop trying to push themselves moving forward because they are down.

Making Depression bigger than it actually is
Formal or informal diagnosis of depression can blow things out of proportion.  Some people with mild depression could develop a larger problem simply by knowing that they have a mental health condition.  Hypochondriacs are especially prone to this.  Also, kids who are diagnosed too early could worry more, feel different/weird, and ultimately develop incorrect self-concept and mental coping mechanisms.

There are a lot of other things that could be said but I hope this short post gives an idea why your attitude must be acknowledgement (as in not denial) but not acceptance (in a sense that nothing can be done about it).


Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Functional but Blue

Many of us with depression are highly functional which makes it even more difficult to decide on getting help. You don't have to go very far to see what I mean.  Michael Phelps is arguably the greatest swimmer in history and also a spokesperson for talkspace , an online platform that offers convenient and affordable therapy. Functional doesn't mean healthy! Finding joy in our everyday activities, looking forward to the next hour and things that are coming, waking up with drive, and feeling no dread/fear/anxiety about what's coming is where your life could be... so start walking the depression road one step at the time. Tip: Put yourself to the test! 1. Ask yourself each evening what portion of the day you spent feeling that you did chores (this is not the activity but the general feeling of having to do rather than wanting to do). 2. Keep tabs for two week. 3. If you spend more than half of your time this way, it is time to change something and feel better. Only

Depression with Bidirectional Illnesses

Depression with Bidirectional Illnesses I've said this before... depression doesn't walk alone in most cases. The importance of this cannot be emphasized enough because the coexistence of conditions often lead to worsening conditions. The constant exposure/experience of the simultaneous illnesses often end up in competition for attention which feed the cycle and make things worse for both (or multiple conditions). While I cannot list all combinations in this post, I'd like to illustrate the point with some common occurrences. Depression and Insomnia It has been proven by research that insomnia is a huge risk factor for depression as well as a consequence of depression. This is not hard to understand. In layman terms, those of us who don't get enough sleep often experience lack of energy, memory problems, and a host of other symptoms that make normal functioning of body and mind difficult on a daily basis. The frustration with not being able to do all the thing

Break the Negative Cycle

Part of why depression is so debilitating is the vicious circle of negative thinking.  It goes something like this: I feel down > I'm lazy > I don't deserve ______ > I feel guilty/anxious/stressed/pain/paranoid/whatever > I should _____ > I'm tired > I don't care > leave me alone > REPEAT Here are some techniques I used to break this cycle: Listen to comedy - not the sarcastic type but pure funny stuff Search for quotes on life wisdom - ponder its truth and how (if at all) you can apply it Clean something - it is amazing how focusing on a simple task can give your mind a break Write a note of appreciation - like smiling, using positive language raises your spirit/mood Breath - if you don't know how, look up yoga/meditation/mindfulness The possibilities are endless.  The main idea I am highlighting is to FOCUS on something for a little while (15 minutes) to give your mind a break from negative thinking.  This will allow you to s