Skip to main content

Acknowledge v Accept Depression

I will outline attitudinal difference between acknowledging and accepting depression.

Acknowledging means that you are fully aware of your negative mental state and have the choice of finding ways to deal with it.  This also means that you are not in denial.  Those who have not acknowledged their state of mind and emotions caused by depression do not have a choice but suffer.

Acknowledging also means that you now reached the point where you can embark on the depression road to make life better.  You can seek more information about your particular version of depression, find the right medication, and engage with a therapist.

Acknowledging also means that you can start self-observation, self-examination, and self-awareness practices.  There are a lot of resources out there.  My advice would to be read some and identify a few sources that really resonates with you (like it is your style) so that you can put reading into practice.

The most important thing is to get on the road and do something about depression.

Now the accepting!

While it takes a level of acceptance to deal with depression, I need to warn about too much of it.  Below are some of the common effects I've seen which are detrimental to managing or eradicating depression. 

Helplessness
When someone accepts their depression as an unchangeable condition, the constant reminder of this status can turn into a perpetuating and self-fulfilling phenomena to get even deeper into depression.  The helpless state then causes a lack of inclination to reach out and practice self-care.

Making Depression an Excuse
Too much acceptance also can cause people to rationalize their lack of productivity, mood, motivation, and so forth.  The danger here is that people will stop trying to push themselves moving forward because they are down.

Making Depression bigger than it actually is
Formal or informal diagnosis of depression can blow things out of proportion.  Some people with mild depression could develop a larger problem simply by knowing that they have a mental health condition.  Hypochondriacs are especially prone to this.  Also, kids who are diagnosed too early could worry more, feel different/weird, and ultimately develop incorrect self-concept and mental coping mechanisms.

There are a lot of other things that could be said but I hope this short post gives an idea why your attitude must be acknowledgement (as in not denial) but not acceptance (in a sense that nothing can be done about it).


Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Depression SWOT Analysis

One of my special talents (no big head here just historical evidence) is translating and adopting seemingly unrelated concepts to solve problems. This is the context for sharing how I used a traditional business tool SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats) to assess and plot a path out of depression. First off, using business tools for mental health is a great thing because it allows for taking the illness into a more pragmatic framework than traditional therapy approaches. Secondly, business concepts are known to many so there is an innate comfort in relating to them. Third, using a tool that is not psychological in nature may help put more emphasis on problem solving than illness identification. What I mean by this is a different viewpoint that focuses on current practices and options moving forward. So lets begin. SWOT is a staple of competitive analysis tools in business. You can read a good writeup here: https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_05.htm My ado...

Depression after beliefs shatter

It occurred to me that after the January 6th riot, many of the people who truly believe they have been cheated by the system can fall into depression. It is like their whole world crumble. They may feel abandoned as human beings. I'm not talking about the rioters that were looking for an opportunity to cause havoc. I'm talking about those who cried while stating that they have no option but resort to extreme measures. Regardless of what our political views are, we cannot forget that behind the scenes are real people with real feelings. The effect of facing with our beliefs being destroyed is like a glass castle crumbling to pieces. People will feel lost, purposeless, discredited, ousted, ostracized, looked down on, and a host of other things. Many will fall into depression and some into deep depression. How are we going to help those who will fall into hopelessness, helplessness, despair? The burden to heal so many will fall on all of us because mental health professionals will...

Depression - 4 Daily Essentials

After almost a year of searching for, testing and developing practices to eliminate depression, I've come up with the most essential 4 that has the greatest impact. I'll keep this really simple. 1. Start the morning right (5-minutes) State out loud: I am the maker of my good day Make a list of 3 positive things you a thankful in your life Make a daily to-do list of 3 items (must, optional, just for me) Commit to make the day count for you (learn something, feel progress) 2. Reset when unwanted thoughts, events, whatever happens Make a list of 5-minute activities (water plants, load dish washer, sort laundry, send a message to a friend, walk around the block, window shop online for something specific, have a cup of tea, meditate, listen to a song/talk/audio book, etc.) Whenever you sense the onset of a downward feeling (usually a gut or heart squeeze) nip it immediately by doing one of the items from your list 3. Take a 15-minute 'me time' Create a playlist of meditation...