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For Loved Ones

A few words for those of you who support us...

Your attempts to cheer us up, drag us into social events, and make us 'happy' is not helping.  We understand that you want the best but it doesn't work.  The disinterest, lack of motivation, sadness, and other negative emotions have little to do with the outside world.

Here are a few things that work:
Give us small projects with no pressure to complete them, when done say thank you.
Acknowledge that we feel low without judgement or trying to fix it.
Offer to do something together (cook, play, movie, walk) but don't get disappointed if we turn it down.  Try again, we have better days.

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