Functional but Blue

Many of us with depression are highly functional which makes it even more difficult to decide on getting help.

You don't have to go very far to see what I mean. Michael Phelps is arguably the greatest swimmer in history and also a spokesperson for talkspace, an online platform that offers convenient and affordable therapy.

Functional doesn't mean healthy! Finding joy in our everyday activities, looking forward to the next hour and things that are coming, waking up with drive, and feeling no dread/fear/anxiety about what's coming is where your life could be... so start walking the depression road one step at the time.

Tip: Put yourself to the test!
1. Ask yourself each evening what portion of the day you spent feeling that you did chores (this is not the activity but the general feeling of having to do rather than wanting to do).
2. Keep tabs for two week.
3. If you spend more than half of your time this way, it is time to change something and feel better.

Only you can start your journey to feel better!

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